Julie Jeske

Relationship Coach Julie Jeske gives us some tips!

Turn the lights on (or off)
If you are used to turning off the light, shedding your clothes and diving under the covers...try opening your eyes and really seeing what is happening.  For those of you who are used to making love with the lights on, then try it in the dark.  Changing the lighting can impact your senses, your intimacy and your experience.

Read or watch something sexy together
Grab a book, climb under the covers and take turns reading to each other.  If erotica feels too racy then try a romance novel or a book of love poems.  Let the written word inspire your imagination.  If you are more of a visual person, then get yourself a movie.  Porn isn't just for men or masturbation.  There are more and more producers making porn with women or couples in mind.  Prefer something a little more subtle?  Find a mainstream movie with some sexy scenes to get your pulse racing and your fantasies churning.

Step out of the bedroom
Sex in the kitchen, living room, shower, backyard or car can spice things up.  If that feels a little too risqué, try making out in any of those places.  Take it public - a kiss in a public place, a little petting in the movie theatre, these things can be great "foreplay" for when you get home.

Accessorize
Sex lingerie, handcuffs, high heels (and nothing else), his favorite t-shirt and boxers, red lipstick, a blind fold (or scarf), whipped cream, a vibrating toy or flavored lotion.  It just takes one small thing to make a world of difference!

Pucker Up
If you've been in the same relationship for a while, your sexual encounters might start to feel a little predictable.  First you do A, then a little B, followed by some C.  Changing the order (or adding a completely new step) can shake things up and make them exciting.  Kissing as foreplay, "midplay" :) or while basking in the afterglow is one thing you can do to deepen your connection with your partner.  And don't save up all of your kisses for the bedroom, kissing in general can spice things up!  A morning kiss can stay with your partner all day long.  Add an Ooh Baby Baby Kiss to your daily routine and feel your passion heat up!

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